Balancing Love and Debt: Exploring My Girlfriend’s Reluctance to Share Financial Responsibility

After over three years together, my family remained hesitant about our relationship, especially regarding her job

Learning that my family had not fully accepted our relationship, coupled with my debt of VND1 billion (US$40,372) for a house, prompted my girlfriend to suggest breaking up.

For over three years, we shared a relationship, during which I frequently brought her home to meet my family in the past two years. I even encouraged my family to get to know her better.

Despite my reassurances that love and marriage were my decisions, my family’s resistance remained a challenge

Despite these efforts, my family remained hesitant to embrace our relationship, primarily due to her job. I consistently reassured them that decisions regarding love and marriage are for sure mine, and they agreed with this stance.

When my girlfriend inquired about marriage, I affirmed my interest but also detailed the challenges we were facing. The most obstacles included my family’s reluctance and the house loan I was repaying.

I had hoped that sharing these difficulties would inspire her to support me through this challenging time. Instead, she decided to end our relationship, explaining that my family’s disapproval would complicate our lives if we were to marry.

It’s worth noting that I had already established a timeline to prepare for the wedding by the end of the year, especially since I am now 30. With her decision to leave, I am left wondering what steps I should take next.

Rashford Carpenter is a culture critic and content strategist at TheArtistree.fm, where he brings a thoughtful and refined lens to the world of entertainment. With a background in journalism and a passion for storytelling across mediums, Rashford focuses on the deeper narratives behind film, television, and music—uncovering the cultural shifts and creative forces that drive the industry forward.